'They can't steal my joy': Krystal hits back at pregnancy critics
Krystal Tomlinson and dancehall star Beenie Man are expecting a baby.
Media personality Krystal Tomlinson has responded to the tide of criticism swirling around her recent announcement of her pregnancy with dancehall superstar Beenie Man with a measure of sangfroid and an almost zenlike, sanguine calm that betrays her youthful age.
"We must learn to keep outsiders outside and as long as you are able to do that then there is no way they can steal your joy, and create stress and anxiety in your life," Tomlinson told Loop Jamaica reporter Claude Mills.
"You have to know how to recognise a stranger separate from a friend. You have to recognise when criticism is coming from a place of love and compassion versus when it is coming from people who want to create chaos."
Tomlinson, a former festival queen, is also the president of the People's National Party Youth Organisation (PNPYO) and she is concerned that social media users have been shouting the term 'bastard' to anyone who listens.
She is concerned about any attempts, malicious and otherwise, to categorise any child as illegitimate. She believes that the practice is highly offensive, and that society should be careful not to attach that label to any child.
"I hope that children who read that post and are themselves the product of unmarried couples do not feel insignificant. You are not insignificant, it is an absolute lie, there is no truth in the lies being told," Tomlinson said.
It is interesting to note that children who were born out of wedlock in Jamaica could not inherit property until Michael Manley piloted the act to abolish the illegitimacy law in 1975, so that “no bastard no deh again”. But certain social mores and perceptions still remain.
She urged children to develop strong filters especially against the bullying tide of social media, and suggested that they "listen with the right ear, and know when criticism is coming from a place of love and care".
"Take guidance, discipline and chastisement from those who care, keep the outsiders outside," she urged.
In the meantime, Tomlinson is enjoying all aspects of her pregnancy, even the minutiae, the intimate and peculiar surprises that come from a life growing inside her. On Friday morning, she tweeted: "We heard our baby’s heartbeat yesterday. My 3rd time, Mo’s first. LIIIIIIFE…. Good morning world! May your heart beat wildly, with excitement - in celebration of YOUR life today. It is a gift. Enjoy it.”